A longtime – like 30 years longtime – girlfriend of mine noted that she hadn’t seen a recent post from me. I was so elated that she actually read my posts and more so that she looked for them. She began naming all the reasons why I hadn’t and was indeed spot on. I told her that she should submit a post here and she smiled…hmm we shall see.
It has been a week since that conversation. And not a single post was posted in that time. Why, you ask? Why indeed. There are plenty of topics on which I have an opinion and tons of goings on. I could have updated you about the ‘wee one’ getting bronchitis or how I have had bronchitis and am still coughing. Or that we had 6 more inches of snow this week and yesterday was the first day of spring. I could have given you my outlandish completely baseless theories regarding the missing flight 370 and how I really want the plane to have been plane-napped so that the people on board have a better chance at survival. I could have told you all about my little plants, or the wood purchases for a garden box or about the challenge that is my hair. About how my heart broke or how it heals.
But I realized something. That more than anything, I was afraid. Scared that no one would want to read what I have written. That you would careless about my ideas or opinions or random statements delved in my own idiosyncrasies. This outlet, this social connection, this information station could simply be a nothing. A non-starter. A failure. I am afraid to fail. WOW!!! I hadn’t realized it now.
I learned that I am afraid to die. I wasn’t always. Before my 27th year, I would have been pleased to meet my maker. I adore Him and had no regrets. Then a gave birth to a perfect being and fell so much in love that I became afraid. Scared to miss something, scared to not see him as a young man, frightened to not meet his children. I feared not being able to balance nurture with the nature, not being able to teach him all he should know and instill in him love of God, family and country. Oh there were so many fears associated with being forced away from that boy too soon. But mostly, a fear that I would fail him.
I feared failing you. Not entertaining you to the best of my ability. Not educating or learning or creating or inspiring you enough. Not being enough, for you, the reader.
I am getting over it. I am enough. I am alive. I am growing.
So it has been a bit more than a week since I installed Marley Twists. These Damn Marley Twist (TDMT) from here on out. I have had a few more twists slip out. Insert booing here. Now this is undoubtedly human error, added to a style that doesn’t ‘hold tight’ to begin with. Twists are in general, easy on the hair whereas braids, are a bit more taxing to the hair.
My inexperience in twist installation not only didn’t allow me to utilize the invisible install method found here and here. Most of the first six twists slipped out before I had moved to the seventh twist. Re-do. I switched from invisible root to braid start for a better hold. Taking that into consideration, I still have slippage. Mostly in the back where the hair is short and around the edges. The hair at the nape is about 1 1/2 inches long. The rest of the twists have slipped some too. These areas are fragile and I didn’t want super tight extensions breaking them off.
I primarily wear my hair in a basket braid (very wide flat braid) up the back into a top knot. Yes, I made that name up, but i think it fits. I take what would be the bang area and swoop it over, wrap it around the top knot and tuck it. Sounds way more complicated than it is, but I get lots of compliments. One lady asked if I was a hairstylist. My answer, “NO! Those folks have way more hair creativity and standing stamina then I could ever muster.” I simply copied a hair style that I found on Donedo’s YouTube channel.
I only utilize the back braid as all that front is too much in my face on the daily basis. I like it and might try it next time I go out :).
Today I am rocking the low side knot. Quick easy and straight forward. Why, you may be asking, do I not wear the twist out long? Well, there are a few good reasons. First, hair on my neck irritates me. Even my own hair when I had it permed would touch my neck and drive me bonkers. Especially when it was wet. This Kanekalon hair is a bit scratchy. I don’t like scratchy. Second, I didn’t install twists for length. I could care less about having long fake hair. I do like how the length makes updos really, I mean extremely easy. At most, I use one lonely hair pin to keep it up!!! Booyah!!!
Keeping it Moist
Get your mind out the gutter. Now your mind is really in the gutter. My natural hair still needs daily moisture. So, I gots a routine! Before bed and sometimes in the morning too, I:
- spritz hair up to where I think my natural hair ends, with Restore By Jane Carter,
- immediately follow with Shea Moisture’s Reconstructive Elixir (it spray a fine yet strong mist that offers better oil disbursement); massage in,
3. tie with satin scarf, and
4. continue on with my life!
Til later lovelies.
Tell me, how are you rocking your hair this uber cold winter?
So to catch up since the last post, I decided to add Marley Twists to my hair in a completely ill-prepared, unplanned, not-thought-out kind of a way. Also known as last minute. Eh. So how did it go you ask? Quite well if I do say so myself.
I actually started the twists around 3:20 pm. By the time I had completed the first 6, I had also learned my first lesson. The invisible method demonstrated by Breanna Rutter here and Donedo here is
way WAY more difficult to keep in than it seems. They promptly slipped out. Second lesson learned, patience grasshopper. So I managed to switch techniques and install 2 1/2 packs of hair with out significant problems. I took lots of breaks to nurse, eat, walk around, watch movies, really I took breaks because twisting this much hair is just boring. at 10:59 pm I was dipping the rolled ends into hot water to curl them. That was that. By Tuesday another twist slipped out. But I just put it right back in. End of story.
Yes, I like them. The first two days, I wore them up in a top know. I quickly realized that single digit weather and no hat is disastrous so today, they are in a low ponytail as to accommodate a hat.
Are they heavy? Yes. I have added a significant amount of new materiel to the top of my head so yep, it is heavy. For me that is kinda like asking did getting earring hurt. Yes they did, sharp metal pushed through one’s anatomy tend to bring pain. However, It is not unreasonable. I don’t find that i must try to balance my head to keep it from lolling to one side.
How much did this endeavor cost? The hair cost a whooping $7 a bag. I only used 2.5 bags. So for me, self-installing is totally worth the savings.
How long will I leave them in? No more than 4 weeks as I run the risk of starting locs at that time and that isn’t the path I am walking.
So here is the skinny:
Type of hair used:Sensationnel Synthetic hair Braids Braid Now Reggae Braid (MARLEY BRAID) (1B)
Type of roller used:
How I installed them:
- I separated a row and clipped all other hair out of the way.
- I separated a section to be twisted and slipped the rest of the row out of the way.
- Added moisturizer to the section and then covered that with coconut oil.
- Followed by a castor oil mix to seal it all being sure to cover the ends well.
- Next, was a bit of EcoStyler Olive Oil Gel ( I don’t know that you really need this one but I used it).
- I then took a pre-separated section of Marley hair and fluffed it. By fluffing, I mean I gently pulled it apart from one end to the other. Not completely apart, just enough to make it fluffier.
- I found the center of said hair
- wrap it around my hair section (creating three pieces)
- and began to braid. I stopped after my hair ended up in the center braiding section twice.
- While my hair was in the center, I split it in two, combined each split section with the Marley sections and began to twist.
- Once my entire head was completed, I used cold wave rollers on the ends and dipped them into boiling hot water. Please remove water from the hot stove prior to dipping. It is best to put the water in a bowl on a solid, flat surface.
- Let dry and style!
Marley Twist updo
So I have been getting frustrated with the whole long term transitioning thing. I got the last relaxer touch-up back at the end of June 2013. The mess I call hair, requires weekly ‘doing’. Doing equals manipulation. Manipulation equals breakage. Natural hair that meets up with relaxed hair equals breakage. The prescription shampoo I use for itchiness is very drying. Drying equals breakage. That means I must consistently adhere to a routine of protein (about every 4 weeks) and deep moisturizing conditioner (weekly).
Let me clarify. All the pre-poo, sealing, conditioning, drying shampoo, protein-ing, deep conditioning and then finally styling takes up the majority of one of my two days off. The other day is a day of child wrangling. Yes, I do a lot too my hair even before I shampoo. Suffice it to say. I can’t just be still on my day off. I mean, as still as a Mommy of four (one of whom is a mere 9 months) can be.
I am always full of ideas. Not all will come to fruition. Not all are steeped in reality. Not all make sense for the situation at hand. But there is this one idea. Marley Twists. I have YouTubed it from every angle. Read every blog I could find about them. I have spoken to a hair professional. I believe I can do them… myself. She didn’t agree. She highly encouraged I visit a braiding professional. I explained that my frugal nature would not let me spend ooh-gobs for hair and then pays someone uber-gobs to twist them. Did I mention that two of my kiddos are teenagers? Teenagers pack away food like the will run out of it.
So, I now have more Marley hair than the law should allow. Did I mention that even with all that researching, I didn’t plan on actually doing them. It is 2:16 pm and I have shampooed. It was time for a protein treatment, so hear I sit with ApHogee hardening in my hair. Still must deep condition and dry. And then I can get started. Installing them could easily take 8 hours. Eh. Pray for me.
Why, you ask, am I experimenting with Marleys? First, I need a break. Marley Twists will allow me to shampoo and moisturize my hair without having to manipulate it. I won’t have to do more than pin it up, cover it up or let it down for four weeks. Second, it is by far one of the coldest winters we have seen in my neck of the woods in quite a while. My hair need some protection and Marleys qualify as just that. Third, I have convinced myself and ‘The Marine’ (who would prefer that anything other than hair I grow out of my head be left alone) that the only alternative is to chop it off. This path is less drastic. Fourth, if I really don’t like it, I can just take it out. Fifth, the hair is washable and reusable. This is reassuring. Although in truth, I have way more packs of hair than I will need this year.
Til later lovelies.
Have you tried Marley Twists or any other extended protective style?
How did you like it?
Protective Style: The Halo
It is kinda sorta winter. The Winter equinox was this past Saturday. It snowed on three separate occasions the week before last. There was shoveling involved. Yet, temperatures actually reached 70 degrees this weekend. So what on earth do we call that. Nonetheless, I have hair to concern myself with.
It seems that protective styling is the thing to do if you want to keep your ends attached to the rest of the hair shaft, some real level of moisture and gain length. What is protective styling, you ask? Good. So it isn’t just me. The most helpful info I found came from CurlyNikki’s 101 post and Napturally Curly’s Do’s And Dont’s. Using a relaxer, I had never heard of this unicorn call protective styling. So I Googled it and a few days later, I had an idea of what it used for but not how to do it on hair that is straight on the ends, coily curly at the roots, fragile and heck and getting shorter by the day.
What I have learned from countless hours of YoutTube and Google is this:
- Hair doesn’t define me
- Hair Typing is helpful to a degree but my hair and your hair are still very different beasts
- Very few women have always loved their hair and even fewer have never had to struggle with their hair
- Hair envy is not productive to loving yourself
- HAVE FUN. It is only hair.
- Some little girl is looking to you as her inspiration, she wants her hair to be like yours (teach her that her hair is beautiful too)
Oh, and I learned some actual styling and care stuff too:
- Protective styling is moisturizing then tucking those ends, low manipulation (not touching, combing, handling the hair) very often, and different on everyperson
- Protective styling can be simple and elegant
- Deep Conditioning Moisture treatments are essential on the weekly/biweekly basis
- Transitioning hair is prone to breakage at the line of demarcation. You know, where the straight and coily curly hair meet.
- Transitioning hair needs protein monthly
- Protein treatments should be immediately followed by Moisture treatment
- Your hair will undoubtedly need something different from my hair
So here is what I have been doing in my effort to protect my hair from going down the drain. And I totally mean going down the drain.
I sleep in a satin bonnet, on a satin pillowcase. This is not new to me. The pillowcases were purchased years ago from Burlington for about $3. I started using them after I read somewhere that they may reduce the chance of wrinkles!!! Sold!
I steam up may bathroom with every shower so that my hair gets a bit of moisture. I then seal in the moisture using a heavy oil blend while still steaming lol. I also tend to slather coconut or olive oil over my skin while still wet because winter weather will rob your skin of moisture too.
So far, a flat twist halo is my primary protective go to style. I haven’t been able to recreate a lot of other styles as of yet. It is relatively easy and involves one continuous or two flat twist on either side of my head that meet up together. I do need to use hair and bobby pins to secure it but it is easy to do and easy to manage. I like easy.
Stay warm and protected my lovelies.
What is your go to Protective Style?
I recently purchased two items from Andre Walker Hair: Gold System for Kinky product line. My deft purchase occurred when Good Morning America (GMA Deals) had what equates to a Flash Sale featuring these products. Well, let’s clarify that. My Mom called regailing about the deal and how much she wanted to try it. So I bought her some and that means I was forced (ahem) to buy some for me too. So what did I get? I purchased both the Crème Gelee and the TKO Ultimate Moisture Conditioner. What did I think?:
Beautiful Kinks Styling Crème Gelee
|Water (Aqua), Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea) Butter, Persea Gratissima (Avocado) Oil, Simmondsia Chinensis (Jojoba) Seed Oil, Cetearyl Alcohol, Glycerin, Polyquaternium-69, Behentrimonium Methosulfate, Schinziophyton Rautanenii (Mongongo) Kernel Oil, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Guar Hydroxypropyltrimonium Chloride, Disodium EDTA, Citric Acid, Cetyl Alcohol, Polysorbate 60, Caprylyl Glycol, Phenoxyethanol, Hexylene Glycol, Ethylhexylglycerin, Fragrance (Parfum)
|Shine, hold, definition, moisture – and never crispy, flakey, or dry. Infused with African Mongogo Oil and formulated to be your only leave-in styler, The Gold System Beautiful Kinks is superior in every way.
- Paraben Free
- Sulfate Free
- No Animal Testing
So… My hair is not totally ‘kinky’. It is in fact, transitioning (relaxed to natural) so there is about 6 months worth of coiled curlies. This may have had an impact on my twist out results. I made sure to coat each strand with special attention paid to those ends. The twists were very sleek and skinny. Tight even. So my initial thought was that I would have great definition. If my hair were longer my twists would have looked like Senegalese Twist extensions.
Day 1 hair. I untwisted my hair and then began seperating each twist. BAD NEWS. Frizzy was all that resulted from those sleek super tight slender twists. So now what? Don’t separate that is what. Alright, not the look I was going for but I can live with it.
Day 2 hair. Someone took all the body my hair had (which really wasn’t that much) and ran off with it. Even the curly ends are flat, lifeless and well relaxed. Before work, I added a couple of rods to try and reset the curled ends but they fizzled.
Day 3 hair. crowning flat twist is all I can do at this point. The definition has faded for about half of the twists. Drowned kinda wavy rat.
- The product has a nice smell but nothing to write home about.
- The Gellee is very rich and creamy. Definitely feels like a luxury item.
- The container still looks full!!! I used what I thought was a lot of product yet, only a small amount seems to have disappeared from the container. I love getting a lot when I am expecting a little. Cheese.
- Every time I touch my hair this product is on my hands. I touch my hair a lot. I know I shouldn’t but those are the facts. I wash my hands a lot too.
- Curled ends fell after the first day.
- Separated twists became frizzy. I really don’t like frizz.
- The twists that were simply untwisted but not separated (hope that makes sense) lost all body by day two.
Products life on my shelf:
Suspect. I doubt that I will throw this away since I am way to cheap money conscious or even better… frugal for that to occur. I can probably figure out some product combinations that will make this useful. That may entail gifting it or waiting for more curly and less straight hair to emerge. Keeping it in the current rotation isn’t going to happen though. Unfortunately, this product isn’t for me or my transitioning hair right now.
You can watch the video here.
So tell me, have you tried Andre’s gellee? Did you like it?